There are various reasons for trying out ENM - one of them is tremendous personal growth. But it requires stakeholders to be pretty mature, clear about their (different) expectations, caring, careful, honest, tolerant, resilient and transparent. Even then, drama to be expected, once someone really falls in love. It’s the wrong thing to do, if your relationship isn’t working. Although I’m wondering, what “working” means: Would you have the idea to open up, if you were fully satisfied with the status quo?
… and life goes on, while we are all searching… 🙏🏼
I agree with your last comment. It won‘t necessarily fix or destroy a relationship but it does put a magnifying glass on on the problems that are there but hidden. We are monogamish since the beginning 11 years ago. We met in a tantra group and it just transitioned from there. We are still active with the group.
It doesn't necessarily lead anywhere. In a neo-tantric group you have intimate contact through flowing massages or different exercises or meditation. We are still close with many of the members of the group even though we are now a couple. When we attend retreats we go as individuals. That's how we met so it never was a transition from monogamy to ENM or what I refer to as Monogamish. We met 15 years ago and have been a couple for 11.
There are various reasons for trying out ENM - one of them is tremendous personal growth. But it requires stakeholders to be pretty mature, clear about their (different) expectations, caring, careful, honest, tolerant, resilient and transparent. Even then, drama to be expected, once someone really falls in love. It’s the wrong thing to do, if your relationship isn’t working. Although I’m wondering, what “working” means: Would you have the idea to open up, if you were fully satisfied with the status quo?
… and life goes on, while we are all searching… 🙏🏼
I agree with your last comment. It won‘t necessarily fix or destroy a relationship but it does put a magnifying glass on on the problems that are there but hidden. We are monogamish since the beginning 11 years ago. We met in a tantra group and it just transitioned from there. We are still active with the group.
How tf does a Tantra group lead to non monogamy?
It doesn't necessarily lead anywhere. In a neo-tantric group you have intimate contact through flowing massages or different exercises or meditation. We are still close with many of the members of the group even though we are now a couple. When we attend retreats we go as individuals. That's how we met so it never was a transition from monogamy to ENM or what I refer to as Monogamish. We met 15 years ago and have been a couple for 11.