As a Sexologist, I’m here to call it like it is. Biases in relationships, sex, and identity don’t just affect us individually, they shape how we interact with each other and the world around us.
Love this conversation. We really do reveal our biases in almost every conversation. It’s been so helpful in conflict resolution with my partner too, we both are more deeply acknowledging that our biases will never make us ‘right’, and what a relief that is! X
Thank you, Sarina! Isn't that the truth. It's impossible to be 100% unbiased all the time, and so many of those unbiases are ones that we're unaware of. I believe that's the power of our personal relationships, to be mirrors and to help each other see the blind spots in a loving way. What a beautiful acknowledgment between you and your partner! A relief indeed! X
When I first met the word, ‘sexologist,’ I thought it was a porn/kink thing. Mind, I was in my early teens. Today I read this:
‘I trained the team that trained the interviewers who conducted the research for projects run by the CDC.’
Now that says something…
Perhaps it’s me, but as I age, bias and stupidity seem to make loyal allies. Full immunity from the second is impossible as the best of us make logical blunders … Socrates, Plato, Aristotle.
But anyone can announce their biases. Here they are … this, that and something else. Why sanctify our glorious biases as the inerrant word?
Rightly or not, my thinking [when I think at all] is that our civilization is in more peril than we know.
If we cannot agree even on ground rules for civic discourse, one suspects that our prospects for good outcomes are not statistically significant.
What you have given us makes a contribution to a much greater narrative than your immediate subject. But you know that.
Thank you GS-z-14-1 for being here and your kind words. As people, it's pretty natural to want to surround ourselves with people who think and act like us. Which can lead to confirmation bias and assuming that this is a representation of how everyone thinks and feels.
The word Sexologist can certainly conjure up a lot of ideas of what it could be! As a clarification, my work in supporting social science research on behalf of the CDC was how I put myself through school as I was becoming a Sexologist and space holder. I'm grateful for the ways that it helped refine my ability to spot bias when it rises -- as it inevitably does.
Unfortunately it feels like you're right with this comment: "our civilization is in more peril than we know." I'm all for establishing ground rules for civil discourse! And also, there doesn't seem to be any sanctity or respect left in government.
May we do things differently. What we can do is what is within our individual control. This is mine. Thank you for being here.
Love this conversation. We really do reveal our biases in almost every conversation. It’s been so helpful in conflict resolution with my partner too, we both are more deeply acknowledging that our biases will never make us ‘right’, and what a relief that is! X
Thank you, Sarina! Isn't that the truth. It's impossible to be 100% unbiased all the time, and so many of those unbiases are ones that we're unaware of. I believe that's the power of our personal relationships, to be mirrors and to help each other see the blind spots in a loving way. What a beautiful acknowledgment between you and your partner! A relief indeed! X
When I first met the word, ‘sexologist,’ I thought it was a porn/kink thing. Mind, I was in my early teens. Today I read this:
‘I trained the team that trained the interviewers who conducted the research for projects run by the CDC.’
Now that says something…
Perhaps it’s me, but as I age, bias and stupidity seem to make loyal allies. Full immunity from the second is impossible as the best of us make logical blunders … Socrates, Plato, Aristotle.
But anyone can announce their biases. Here they are … this, that and something else. Why sanctify our glorious biases as the inerrant word?
Rightly or not, my thinking [when I think at all] is that our civilization is in more peril than we know.
If we cannot agree even on ground rules for civic discourse, one suspects that our prospects for good outcomes are not statistically significant.
What you have given us makes a contribution to a much greater narrative than your immediate subject. But you know that.
Thank you for your work. You have my gratitude.
Thank you GS-z-14-1 for being here and your kind words. As people, it's pretty natural to want to surround ourselves with people who think and act like us. Which can lead to confirmation bias and assuming that this is a representation of how everyone thinks and feels.
The word Sexologist can certainly conjure up a lot of ideas of what it could be! As a clarification, my work in supporting social science research on behalf of the CDC was how I put myself through school as I was becoming a Sexologist and space holder. I'm grateful for the ways that it helped refine my ability to spot bias when it rises -- as it inevitably does.
Unfortunately it feels like you're right with this comment: "our civilization is in more peril than we know." I'm all for establishing ground rules for civil discourse! And also, there doesn't seem to be any sanctity or respect left in government.
May we do things differently. What we can do is what is within our individual control. This is mine. Thank you for being here.
Can I be biased for a moment and say that you are the BEST Sexologist in the world? 😉
You made my day, Ghaz! Thank you so much, love! ☺️
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