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Loved this. Reminded me of some of the stuff in the book ‘Sex at Dawn.’ But the penis head shape/scooping info was new to me, and very interesting. Thanks for sharing these insights.

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Welcome, Rebecca, thanks for chiming in. Yes! Sex at Dawn was one of our required readings when I was becoming a VITA Coach. The body is endlessly fascinating. Glad to have your voice in the mix.

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The body IS endlessly fascinating indeed!

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I love sex ed. I feel like I'm better for having read this.

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Thank you, Allysha! It definitely includes some details that middle school sex ed left out... Better late than never ✨️

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I’ll never look at mushrooms the same way again - sperm scoopers! Well, it does not surprise me how selective our female bodies are, they really don’t settle, oh how we can learn so much from our own nature 💜

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Isn't that the truth! These brilliant bodies, on the lookout for the best partner to procreate with. I read how being on the pill actually mutes women's olfactory senses and ability to select a suitable partner. Our bodies never cease to amaze. 🫶

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So bigger is actually and scientifically better 😊

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We are definitely obsessed with size as a species, aren't we? I did a little digging and found this: "Magnetic resonance imaging studies show that during coitus, the typical penis fills and expands the human vagina, and with complete penetration often pushes up against the cervix (Weijmar Schultz, van Andel, Sabelis, and Mooyart, 1999)."

https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/147470490400200105

Sounds like an average-sized penis will get the job done.

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It definitely does! If I remember correctly, there is a passage in the karmasutra, that women and men should meet according to their (genital) size to have a better experience (assuming hetero sex). I seem to be average sized on the inside and bigger penises hurt during intercourse.

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I appreciate you bringing this into the field, Alina. It makes perfect sense for us to make choices on sexual partner based on our comfort level. Luckily there are so many different options in this vast world of ours. With this in mind, I wonder if men who have large penises don't get as much sex as porn would lead us to believe...

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Nov 18Liked by Sarah Ward

This was such an interesting read, thank you💕💕

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My pleasure! Thank you for being here, Gala! 💕 💝

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Nov 19Liked by Sarah Ward

I saw an animal special talking about testicle size and male monogamy. Some rodents have semen that cements the lady critter shut in hopes of sealing the genetic deal.

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Animal sexuality is a whole fascinating avenue on its own! Female ducks are often subjected to assault from male ducks so they even have fake vaginal canals to prevent the sperm from making it home. It blows my mind!

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That's so interesting. Question: isn't the mushroom shape related to circumcision? Is this the case with uncircumcised penises (peni?)? Does the "hood" move out of the way during sex? I've never really thought about this issue. In the wild, there is no circumcision, so it must move out of the way to act as a scoop. Fascinating article!

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Truly, Janine! Thank you for chiming in and asking such a thought provoking question. Regardless of whether a penis is uncircumcised or not, each penis has its own version of the mushroom shape at the tip. To your point, yes, most uncircumcised penises move during sex, allowing it to still act as a scoop. Some uncut penises have phimosis, in which the hole isn't quite large enough to slide over the head of the penis. Glad to have you here!

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Thanks for that Sarah, I appreciate your knowledge! Not having a penis myself, and interacting mostly with circumcised ones, I was intrigued.

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My pleasure, Janine! It's interesting to hear your reflection, and feel similarly -- my experience has mostly been with circumcised ones as well.

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Excellent point on penis shape and circumcision!

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Definitely, Ashley! Thanks for being here and joining the conversation!

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HAPPY TO BE HERE!

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One next to the banana is more the one be outstanding know size don’t matter but I’m always with guys with huge one

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Enjoy yourself, Ginger!

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An excellent discussion. I forwarded this to my 4 grandsons. The middle one ( 13 ) asked me “Grandpa do people really study penises?”

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Frederick! That's so cool that you shared this with your grandsons, thank you. His remark is classic! As it turns out, yes.

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Tell him yes, yes they do....🙄

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🤭 Why yes!

Hope you are doing well, I thought of you at the Erotic Blueprint event in Denver recently.

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Oh yes, even our eggs have remarkable intuitive abilities.

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they have more wisdom than they are given credit for!

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Isn't that the truth! Eggs are the very definition of feminine allure. Glad to be giving them all the credit they are due!

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I love that, Ghaz. The female body is such a marvel. Thank you for being here!

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I was today year's old when I found all of this information out! LOL! This is the most interesting thing I have read in awhile! Thank you for sharing!

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Kristin, that is one of the most charming and delightful things I've heard in a while -- today year's old! OMG! 😆 Going to keep that one in my back pocket for future use! The pleasure is mine!

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That’s super interesting

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Truly! I loved researching and writing this piece.

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You tell me!

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Very cool info!! I wouldn’t agree with the exact wording of whoever said the mushroom was an “adaptation to female infidelity”. That makes it seem like infidelity was an intrinsic behavior to be worked around by evolution, but I think it was our exact programming because the combination of multiple sex partners AND the sperm displacement is the perfect process for natural selection. Maybe I’m splitting hairs here. Just a thought!

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Agreed. When we mention infidelity, it strikes me that a less monogamous way of being -- perhaps not unlike our bonobo relatives -- seems to have been what humans experienced in our earlier iterations. It's wild how human evolution has impacted our anatomy.

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