Who needs a pink pill (female Viagra) when you have this.

Viagra is the little blue pill that revolutionized sex for men, grossing billions since its launch. There is no comparative pink pill for women. But I can do you one better...

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Sex and Style is written by Somatic Sex Coach Sarah Ward. This is intended as general advice. If you’d like a personalized guidance, I’d be honored to connect with you in a discovery session.

Every woman alive knows what turn on feels like:

To want to freeze time to live inside a moment forever.

To drip with warm honey.

To be so enamored that you could eat the words coming out of your lovers’ mouth.

To bathe in your lovers’ intoxication with you.

To feel drunk on eros, high on desire.

To be the center of this universe of two (or more).

What woman doesn’t want more of that feeling?

As a true Energetic in the Erotic Blueprints, I’m describing the hunt before the feast. The eye contact across a crowded bar. The anticipation of mouths meeting. The dance of seduction.

Alas. For those in familiar, committed relationships, this ardor can fade and be replaced by a different kind of love. How do you re-introduce heat? What is the chemical cocktail for young love?

Novelty and uncertainty are certainly part of the ingredient list.

The history of the blue pill

In 1989, Big Pharma accidentally stumbled upon Viagra. They were developing a blood pressure medication and found a curious, consistent side effect: erection.

A stroke of luck. The truest happy accident for menkind that’s ever been.

And just like that, the blue pill was born.

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For years, women have been sold a bill of rights that they are the demure sex. The ones to wrest sex from. To bed a woman requires convincing. (Because sex wouldn’t be her idea…?)

You may be surprised by this but…

The research shows that women are far more responsive to erotic stimuli than their male counterparts. During a scientific study where women's arousal was measured in the lab, women were aroused by more stimuli than men. This included animal sex, gay sex, lesbian sex, and heterosexual sex.

"Women were more likely to report subjective arousal to erotic stimuli, regardless of the gender of the stimulus. However, genital arousal patterns were more complex and varied."

- Chivers, et al. (2004), Psychological Science

Female arousal is complex and multi-faceted. While sensitive to erotic stimuli, some women also suffer from low libido. There are a myriad of nuances:

Sociocultural influences, including body image and appearance, time and setting, gendered cultural scripts, and expectations for pleasure/orgasm, play an important role in helping determine sexual desire.

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What Big Pharma hasn’t been able to replicate in a pill is context

Woman are sensitive to nuance. It’s not enough to have lady wood. A woman needs to feel safe to take the brakes off. Safe to let her hair down. Safe to take her clothes off and engage vulnerably.

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There is no pink pill Viagra alternative for women on the market. But if there was, would you take it? Would a short cut cut it for you?

After investing millions in trying to develop female Viagra, they have little to show for.

But the planet is ripe with natural aphrodisiacs. Mother Nature knows how to help a sister out. There are herbs and adaptogens that can create a suitable environment in a woman’s body to help her be more receptive to sex… or go in search of it.

I’ve tried several options on the market (you can see why this post has been months in the making) and am here to bring you three pink pill alternatives.

There are things on the market akin to a pink pill.

I’m going to rank three products — libido, Lover, and Ecstasy, Play and Sex Magic — on a scale of 1-5.

Libido gummies by Maude

Maude is a sexual wellness brand developed by a New Mexico-Latina, Éva Goicochea. “We wanted a gummy because of the ritual,” says Goicochea. “We thought it’s not that exciting to take a pill. Is there any way that we can mirror the after-dinner mint experience or like something that feels a little more interesting?” These libido gummies have the best of both worlds: the sustained release of a tincture and the efficient absorption of a capsule.

Maude's passion fruit-flavored vegan libido gummies contain clinically-proven adaptogens and botanicals, like fenugreek, french maritime pine bark and ocean minerals. These help to:

• Reduce stress and anxiety

• Enhance arousal

• Increase blood flow

• Boost production of sex hormones like estrogen

• Support an elevated sex drive over time

  • Sidebar: Not for pregnancy or nursing women.

The magical thing about adaptogens is that they compound over time. I started taking these in July and was delighted by the results!

• Libido score: 5/5. The first time using libido, I experienced a significant increase in genital blood flow and lubrication! 💦

• Taste score: 2/5. While libido is wildly effective, the flavor profile is not my favorite (which hasn’t stopped me from using them up and re-stocking). At least there goes the temptation to take the whole bottle... 😅

• Texture score: 2/5. The gummy is on the harder side and likely to get stuck in your teeth. You may consider letting it dissolve under your tongue instead.

• Sex score: 5/5. I felt more receptive to sexual advances from my partner and was more engaged and enthusiastic throughout.

• Orgasm score: 5/5. My O felt bigger, badder and bolder than usual. Sold!

• Overall score: 3.8

$45 for a month’s supply, or $40 for a monthly subscription.

Remedio “Lover” gummies by Cloudwalker Farms

This New Mexico-based cannabis provisions company recently developed “Lover”, a CBD and low-THC gummy to get you in the mood. Plus, they’re heart-shaped. ♥️ Stawwwp!

• Libido score: 4/5. After taking Lover, my body felt like one big YES. The CBD and CBG is relaxing, and brought a waking dream-like feel to the experience.

  • Heads up… it takes anywhere from 45 minutes to two hours for this to be digested, so a little planning is required. Take it well before the clothes start to come off.

• Taste score: 5/5. The flavor profile is a tasty blend of vanilla and cinnamon.

• Texture score: 5/5. The texture is delightful. Soft, coated in sugar granules, and the perfect amount of chewy.

• Sex score: 5/5. The subtle dose of THC was just enough to help me be deeply embodied and introduce a pleasant body high.

• Orgasm score: 5/5. This felt like a sweet surrender into pleasure. Once the O began, it kept going, and going, and going.

• Overall score: 4.8

$20 for a 10-pack.

Ecstasy, Play and Sex Magic by MOOD™ supplements by Layla Martin

MOOD™ by Layla Martin is a sexy supplement company. Developed by a team of all-female scientists, they use plant medicine to help you get in the mood. Their four formulations, Play, Ecstasy, Sensual and Sex Magic, can be taken before sex.

Their magic ingredients include Cordyceps, Siberian Ginseng, Reishi mushrooms, Maca, Sacred Lotus, Cacao, and GABA. These are formulated to reduce fatigue, regulate female hormones, and boost lubrication, arousal and sex drive.

One thing is for sure: MOOD™ totally nailed their marketing images

For months, I drank MOOD™ in my smoothies daily. You can also blend the formulas together to double the potency! Here’s what I found:

• Libido score: 4/5. A subtle body high, similar to what you would get from microdosing. Ecstasy and Sex Magic both are great for a boost of energy; Play lends to a feeling of being alive. Rather than sexual libido, it feels like a libido for life. MOOD™ is the fastest acting of the three offerings.

  • While you may start to feel effects after 10-15 minutes, it does compound when you take the elixirs regularly.

• Taste score: Ecstasy, an earthy matcha, and Sex Magic, a strawberry ginger lemonade are delicious — 5/5. Play is a salted dark chocolate, a flavor profile I generally like, though this is bitter and rather unpleasant — 1.5/5. I prefer it in a fruit smoothie and have heard good things about mixing it with cocoa.

• Texture score: N/A.

• Sex score: 4/5. Sex Magic makes me feel glittery! My pussy felt like she had a very real presence. The elixirs led to a greater sense of being embodied in bed. I felt in the moment.

• Orgasm score: 5/5. This O was complex — with aftershocks.

• Overall score: 3.8

One elixir bag is $60 for a one month supply (which will easily last you for 45+ days, even with daily use. Note: Sex Magic contains less), or $50 on a subscription basis.

Try it out! You can get 15% off your first oder with WELCOME15.

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Ladies, the next time you want to turn up the dial on your pleasure, let Mother Nature be your pharmacist instead. She’s been fine-tuning her formulation for millennia.

Sex and Style is written by Certified Somatic Sex and Relationship Coach and Wardrobe Stylist, Sarah Ward. She has spent the last 20 years studying human sexuality and minted it in 2021, certifying in the VITA™ Methodology with Layla Martin and as an Erotic Blueprints™ Coach with Jaiya. For personalized support, schedule a free discovery call with Sarah.

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