Your Permission Slip [Registration closes tonight]

How another woman's permission giving led me back to my yes.

It’s the summer of 2019. I’m sitting in my hallway in Seattle, on the precipice of a new chapter. Next to me is my energy teacher and mentor. I’m yearning to say yes to more: to say yes to what I’ve been wanting, which is to leave Seattle. To have new experiences. To deeply inhabit this body.

And feeling sooo stuck.

I can almost taste what’s next, and the yes just won’t materialize.

Maybe you can relate. Have you ever wanted something so bad and not been able to give yourself permission to have it? How have you found your yes?

If you’ve been following my journey for a while, you’ve gotten a glimpse of the long arc. Being born and raised in an ultra conservative faith, I carried sexual shame and shut-down around for years. I didn’t have access to my yes, no matter how much I wanted it. For fuck’s sake, I couldn’t even show my shoulders in public. The yes was somewhere out there. Along with my locus of power.

In the thick of things, I wandered around for a long time in the dark, not knowing who or how to talk about it. Especially in the early years, I didn’t have a safe, sensually embodied woman to show me what was possible. I only saw the saint and the slut, nothing in between. Nowhere was there mention of sacred sexuality. The closest I could find to embodiment was my flamenco practice.

How flamenco dance helped me tap into my forbidden turn-on

If you are reading this now, let me be evidence of what is possible:

From shame and shut down to sensual surrender.

Photo by Dana Kae Boudoir

Can I want more?

yes.

Can I have more?

yes.

When you have more and can hold it in an integrated way, it increases your ability to receive more. What you give attention to expands.

Is there more pleasure you’re leaving on the table?

Spoiler: yes.

Can you learn to expand your capacity for more?

Fuck yeah.

Rewind to the summer of 2019, sitting in my hallway with my friend and mentor. She sat with me in my stuck-ness, and saw a way out for me. She intuitively guided me through a ritual on the spot.

With her guidance, I loosened the ties to the patriarchy and drew my power and permission back into my body. It sounds so simple. The stuckness I had carried for so long fell away. Suddenly I was the sovereign of my life. (And I realized I always had been.) Everything changed. And nothing changed.

That’s what The Pleasure Collective is all about. It’s permission giving at its finest.

(In case you’re wondering, “What’s The Pleasure Collective?”)

Introducing The Pleasure Collective

This women’s group is dedicated to sensual embodiment and will meet one Sunday a month near the light of the full moon from 5-7pm PST / 8-10pm EST. Each month we’ll serve up a different topic, that will build on the last.

1. Sunday, January 28: Loving What Is

2. Sunday, February 25: Pleasure as Medicine

3. Sunday, March 24: Embodiment and Tantra

4. Sunday, April 28: Navigating Desire

5. Sunday, May 19: Stress and Desire

6. Sunday, June 23: The Big O | Orgasm Exploration

Gathering across six months will allow us to deeply metabolize, integrate, and transform.

So. If you find yourself craving more, feeling like you’re capable of more, but mot sure the next steps—allow me to write you a permission slip.

Better yet, let’s write it together.

Registration ends at 11:59pm on Saturday, January 27. Please reply with any questions.

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