Welcome, I’m Sarah. What a pleasure to meet you.
This is an invitation to tap into your aliveness. With an integrated approach to style, sensuality and sexuality, the essence of my work is to help you feel as good as you look, and look as good as you feel.
Let’s get acquainted, shall we?
I’m a Certified VITA™ Sex, Love, and Relationship Coach, Erotic Blueprints™ Coach and Wardrobe Stylist, plus a deeply embodied flamenco dancer.
With over 20 years of experience studying human sexuality and helping women reconnect with their bodies, my work is rooted in deep transformation. After breaking free from purity culture, I’m passionate about guiding others through a reclamation of their erotic selves and personal style.
Growing up in a strict religious home, my body didn’t belong to me. As a grown-ass woman, that didn’t feel right.
A decade ago, I began that reclamation, steadily unraveling the patriarchal script that my body is off limits to myself. After years of trying to make it work, I threw out their script and wrote my own. Along the way, I found the goddess that I’d been yearning for and realized she had been there all along.
In 2021, I completed a 650-hour tantric sex, love and relationship VITA Coaching certification. This trauma-informed coaching methodology blends ancient Tantric and Daoist practices with modern psychology and somatic practices.
In 2009 I graduated from the Conselle Institute with master’s level Image Management Consulting certification that blends psychology and sociology. In the decade+ that followed, I’ve worked with 1:1 clients, been an Editorial Stylist in a photo studio setting and led a team of Stylists as Lead Stylist.
Sex and Style aren’t something that you’re born with. You can cultivate it. If you have a body, it is hard-wired for pleasure. You have an entire ecosystem that exists for you, and you alone. Pleasure is your literal birthright.
What you can expect at Sex and Style
As a subscriber, you’ll receive weekly newsletters from me, delivered straight to your inbox. These are cultivated with so much love. Some of the themes covered include:
Cultivating a pleasure practice
What to wear
Sensual embodiment and dance
Paid subscribers get access to:
Unzipped, a private sexy story time with Sarah
Q&A
Full access to the archive
If you’re in a season of financial hardship and would like to be gifted a paid subscription, please reach out. I’ll happily comp you a subscription.
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